If you care at all about actually being helped, I would not recommend this lady. My husband and I sought marriage counseling during a difficult time and I can honestly say that Samantha made things worse. We saw her for 7 appointments. Here are my specific complaints:
1. She is totally checked out. Never at any point during our sessions did I feel that Samantha was engaged mediator. Not once did she offer valuable insight or provide helpful advice. Our conversations stayed surface level and never got at the underpinning of things.
2. She's a clock watcher. 40 to 50 minutes into our 1 hr sessions she started "wrapping up".
3. She said that she took our insurance, but we had to pay upfront. Turns out, she does not in fact take our insurance. I clarified this with her at the end of our first appointment. Explained that insurance was an important consideration for us....
4. She told us that it was ok to bring our daughter to our sessions but it clearly made her nervous to have a 2 year old running around her office, which I can certainly understand. Anyway, I felt those appointments were particularly bad.
5. At one point, she gave my husband and I homework on Demon Dialogues. We both took it home and filled out some pretty elementary paperwork that didn't quite fit our situation. We both returned with it the next week with it partially filled out because it just didn't suit us other than in a super generic sense. We were living apart and did not speak during that time. At least we were on the same page about something.
6. She pandered to my husband. I felt that my husband had some semi-serious control issues rooted somewhere in insecurity. I wanted to get at the root of that insecurity, help him to acknowledge that in himself, and figure out how to work past it. But Samantha mostly kept the conversation surface level and we never went there in any of our sessions. Instead, the time was spent giving my husband the majority of the time to air his petty grievances from before we married which did not touch much on our current issues! But more importantly, this is a classic distraction tactic my husband ALWAYS uses! I said as much. It seemed that we never got past digging up old skeletons and my husband going on long diatribes about them. Seriously.
7. This is probably my biggest complaint. Samantha empowered my husband's control issues. At one point, she sided with him in a dispute over whether I should have sought medical care from a particular qualified man when I was injured, in real need, and without a good alternative. My husband communicated that he didn't like the guy and because I sought treatment anyway, he claimed that I betrayed his trust. Samantha sided with him. My position was that he should not have put me in that position, especially considering the petty nature of his position and my real need for help with poor options. My husband does not dispute that I was in pain and needed help. I think Samantha should have remained neutral on the little things and expressed opinions on bigger issues. Anyway, since our counseling appointments my husband feels ever validated...
Before seeing Samantha, I had hope for my husband and I. Honestly, I thought the odds were in our favor. I still love him a lot, but we couldn't work it out and now things have been said (in our sessions), things that were not adequately addressed, wounds long left unmended, and now it feels too late, the divide too wide. So here goes single mom life. Wish me luck. Thanks Samantha.
If you care at all about actually being helped, I would not recommend this lady. My husband and I sought marriage counseling during a difficult time and I can honestly say that Samantha made things worse. We saw her for 7 appointments. Here are my specific complaints: 1. She is totally checked out. Never at any point during our sessions did I feel that Samantha was engaged mediator. Not once did she offer valuable insight or provide helpful advice. Our conversations stayed surface level and never got at the underpinning of things. 2. She's a clock watcher. 40 to 50 minutes into our 1 hr sessions she started "wrapping up". 3. She said that she took our insurance, but we had to pay upfront. Turns out, she does not in fact take our insurance. I clarified this with her at the end of our first appointment. Explained that insurance was an important consideration for us.... 4. She told us that it was ok to bring our daughter to our sessions but it clearly made her nervous to have a 2 year old running around her office, which I can certainly understand. Anyway, I felt those appointments were particularly bad. 5. At one point, she gave my husband and I homework on Demon Dialogues. We both took it home and filled out some pretty elementary paperwork that didn't quite fit our situation. We both returned with it the next week with it partially filled out because it just didn't suit us other than in a super generic sense. We were living apart and did not speak during that time. At least we were on the same page about something. 6. She pandered to my husband. I felt that my husband had some semi-serious control issues rooted somewhere in insecurity. I wanted to get at the root of that insecurity, help him to acknowledge that in himself, and figure out how to work past it. But Samantha mostly kept the conversation surface level and we never went there in any of our sessions. Instead, the time was spent giving my husband the majority of the time to air his petty grievances from before we married which did not touch much on our current issues! But more importantly, this is a classic distraction tactic my husband ALWAYS uses! I said as much. It seemed that we never got past digging up old skeletons and my husband going on long diatribes about them. Seriously. 7. This is probably my biggest complaint. Samantha empowered my husband's control issues. At one point, she sided with him in a dispute over whether I should have sought medical care from a particular qualified man when I was injured, in real need, and without a good alternative. My husband communicated that he didn't like the guy and because I sought treatment anyway, he claimed that I betrayed his trust. Samantha sided with him. My position was that he should not have put me in that position, especially considering the petty nature of his position and my real need for help with poor options. My husband does not dispute that I was in pain and needed help. I think Samantha should have remained neutral on the little things and expressed opinions on bigger issues. Anyway, since our counseling appointments my husband feels ever validated... Before seeing Samantha, I had hope for my husband and I. Honestly, I thought the odds were in our favor. I still love him a lot, but we couldn't work it out and now things have been said (in our sessions), things that were not adequately addressed, wounds long left unmended, and now it feels too late, the divide too wide. So here goes single mom life. Wish me luck. Thanks Samantha.